In a nutshell, be supportive, informed and involved. The parental relationship and the father's attitude and feelings toward the mother, the pregnancy, and the unborn child have a significant impact on the baby via the mother.[1] When fathers are involved, it helps to create a bond with the unborn child, between parents, and it is strengthening for both the father and mother. For example, be involved in:

·      following the pregnancy

·      the changes in the mother's body

·      supporting the mother through the changes

·      not taking things too personally if there are mood swings

·      following the development of the baby

·      being part of pre-natal (antenatal) birthing decisions

·      helping to choose and prepare items or equipment

          for the baby

·      talking about the birth

·      planning the first weeks, the first year

·      planning working arrangements

·      discussing child rearing issues

If you don't already do it, sharing in household tasks is a good preparation for the first weeks after the birth and life with a child. Also, physical fitness and well being affects psychological well being. So, exercising, quitting smoking, drinking less, and eating well, helps the father be physically and mentally healthy, and is a great way to be supportive and ready for a change in lifestyle.


It may be helpful to note that many pregnant women experience intense emotions, and that it can be supportive to recognize these moments, respect them, and not take things too personally.


How the Mother's Emotions Affect the Baby Before Birth - Samuels and Samuels (& relationship to father)

Good Beginnings - Lee Lozowick


[1] Samuels, Mike, MD, and Nancy Samuels. The Well Baby Book. Summit Books, New York 1991

Detail of The Kiss by Gustav Klimt

In the garden by Keith Mallett